I know you don’t like to talk, but you gotta do it for her.
Yadriel & Maria appreciation post ✿◕‿◕✿
HE SAID MORE THAN HE DID ALL SEASON. I THOUGHT HE DIDN’T CARE. I THOUGHT HE WAS JUST BEING NICE AND LETTING HIS BABY MAMA SEE THE BABY THAT HE PROBABLY DIDN’T REALLY WANT AND BARELY LOOKED AFTER BUT I WAS FUCKING WRONG. I WAS WRONG ABOUT HIM. HE’S JUST QUIET. THE DUDE IS STOIC AS FUCK AND HE FUCKING LOVES MARIA AND HE LOVES THAT BABY AND IT’S FUCKING BEAUTIFUL THE WAY HE GUSHES AND TALKS TO HER LIKE MARIA ASKED HIM TO DO BECAUSE HE WANTS HER TO GROW UP SMART AND LOVED.
But also look at how cute the baby is dressed in each visit. Who did that? Daddy did. But that’s exactly the kind of visual cue that gets lost when he’s getting judged for his bald head, tattoos and stoic (thuggish?) demeanor.
All you fuckers saying, “Every single man in Orange is the New Black is portrayed as an asshole.”
Suck it. This post is just one example of many as to why you’re both wrong and stupid.
cop: who the hell ordered all these pizzas
me: you said i got one phone call
These two will kill me with feels. THESE DORKS WILL HAVE ME KILLED.
"So, Peg leg!"
i laughed too much
tom hanks is my favourite human being
I LAUGHED AT THIS MUCH MORE THAN I SHOULD HAVE
I am so fucking happy this is back in my life once again
SHOUTOUT TO THAT ONE PERSON THAT HEARS YOU WHEN YOU’RE TALKING IN A GROUP AND SMILES OR REPLIES SO YOU DONT FEEL LIKE A TWAT
don’t worship people. i’m serious. no matter how good they sound, how popular they are, how stinging their comebacks are, how moral they seem—do not worship people.
this is something that tumblr does constantly, and whether it starts as a joke or not it ends with many people taking it quite seriously
do not hold anyone above criticism, do not make a person synonymous with an idea. every human has feet of clay, and making yourself loyal to those flaws will only make more trouble for you
how often have you seen posts gushing about how amazing and perfect someone is, only for there to be a condemnation of their problematic history ten posts later? rebel wilson, jennifer lawrence, there’s even an entire blog dedicated to pointing out how your fav is problematic. most recently there was conchita wurst, who was worshiped for being a drag queen persona and turned on when people finished reading the wikipedia article and found out about the exploitative reality show she was on.
people can be important, people can say wise things, feel free to value them for that—but don’t elevate them to a position of godliness. nobody can live up to it.
This post is important and also touches on the notion of “dualistic thinking" which people in general, and on Tumblr especially, are incredibly prone to from my experience. People on Tumblr must always fall into two camps of either being "good," and thus being deified in turn, or being "bad" and deserving of vilification and dehumanization. We cling to dualistic thinking because it’s easier for us to handle psychologically than coming to a really nuanced understanding of people as complex individuals. People are complicated and yes, everyone does or says "problematic" things in one way or another- your tumblr "faves" included.
Even just looking back on history we see this. Malcolm X and Martin Luther King, Jr., leaders who are deified in many circles today, were incredibly sexist and homophobic. I know this from reading historical accounts, and it pains me as a black gay person. But at the same time, though, their contributions to the Civil Rights struggle and advancement of black consciousness (for Malcolm X) were pivotal and that legacy lives on to this day. Just as wrong as it would be for me to put them on a pedestal, deify them and ignore the problematic aspects of their legacy, it is equally wrong for me to demonize and dehumanize them and ignore the good that they did do.
By Tumblr logic, though, where do individuals like this fall? Are they “perfect” gods we must worship, or are they devils for the problematic aspects of their legacy? What about your tumblr “fave” who said something problematic but then apologized?
Nobody is above criticism, and we cannot put anybody on a pedestal. In fact we must criticize and hold each other to a collective standard at which all of our humanities are cherished and valued. At the same time, though, I have no patience for dualistic thinking. I am disappointed when a writer or activist that I like says something problematic, but what I gauge is how they subsequently respond to the criticism and keep in mind that they are human beings like everyone else who can and will make mistakes. Understanding that we are all human, and coming to a more nuanced understanding of people as complex, multifaceted individuals who can and do make mistakes is surprisingly challenging. When I see sincere apologies, though, I take them for what they are, and work to eschew dualistic thinking, even as it presents itself as a reflex for me as well.
At the end of the day, though, I think this is ultimately far better than jumping into the emotional logic presented by Tumblr’s attachment to dualistic thinking- as we collectively wrench ourselves back and forth between seeing these people as either God’s gift to social justice or the spawn of Satan.